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Tuesday, March 6, 2012
Mother's Love
A mother is someone who loves unconditionally and places her children's demand above hers on personal level and not only with words but with astonishing back up actions.
She has gone extra miles for me and my siblings even when it comes with pains or bit uncomfortable for her. She quit personal dreams and pursued ones for family, got into debt so I and my sibling could have food to eat, she was called names trying to earn a living for us, she got worried whenever we got into trouble and many sleepless nights she had thinking how I could make my dream of being a professional in my career. She is such a mother that supports her kids in any way possible. She never discriminate or criticize a child without a good cause.
When it comes to love, Mom's the word. For all the ways you have helped me grow, I want to say I love you so much and I miss you mom
She once told me to always try to be nice and respectful to mothers, women, girls whether or not they are people I know and most importantly when I get involve in relationship with a girl. I remember she further said a man's life is in hands of a woman his married to or whatsoever and she decides whether or not she wants her home being a happy home however I stubbornly disagreed with her then and she said you won't know this until you become a grown man which I am now and have understood mysteries behind her saying. Indeed, mothers are essentially great influence to child's life.
Regardless of what anyone think or say, my mom is the best in whole wide world and I count it huge privilege to have been borne by her. She made me who I am and what I am today. I will always be proud of her
Friday, February 17, 2012
Couple's Relationship
The article you are about to read is base on true life story told by my own mother years ago when I was still a boy. I had no idea as why she was sharing this with me until recently my eyes were opened to see facts behind this story.
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.
So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
Please enjoy your reading.
Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.
So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
Friday, February 3, 2012
The Good The Bad and The Ugly
Life is a lesson and the more we live the more we learn and one can't quit learning until number of days in this world are over. Sometimes you may wish your days has been elapsed and seriously want to disappear. Everything around me are wrecked, life isn't going pretty well, work is funny and plans are not going as expected either. Should I call myself a failure or is it just life not being fair to me? Why are others making it within shorter period of time and I am not? Why am I not succeeding in my plans and relationship? Marriage and friendship?
Well, if these questions are ranging all a round you more often then you definitely need some time off to reorganize your life and set your priorities straight. Life is full of obstacles and ability to stay firm and focus at the point of these obstacles is what keeps you going and finding lasting solutions to them all. There's no single human in this world without stress or obstacles. We all have things making us feel a bit worried so its inevitable for humans with stress.
Bad time are trials (test) times and if you are not strong enough you are going to loose hope virtually in everything and life will seem non interesting- not finding a single reason to live. Funny enough, bad times are in-between success and deadline. The situation around you prevent you from seeing or looking beyond what's happening and how possible you could turn things around for good. No matter how bad a situation or condition may be there is always an escaping route only if you could stop worrying and start thinking way forward out of your predicaments.
Successful people in our world today are all those who turned their bad times into something that led them to where they are today. There are no secrets to this if you may ask. Just find out what they did and you apply same principles then you will be reaping same results if not more.
Do you know when life totally turn with you to face endless wall where you have no one or place to turn to, no shoulders to lean on or even someone to listen to whatsoever happening with you. That's ugly time! Its a bit more worse than bad time and anyone at this point are seemly desperate and vulnerable to anything. A time in your relationship where you wanted out completely and never want to reflect on some good times and wish whole memories erased off your mind. At this stage, decision made are base on situation approach without proper or thorough considerations of your partner.
Seriously I know the true feeling because I've been there just like you but don't make haste in making a major decision that may leave you later with no options. Friends around you may completely not be supportive as many may be giving you pressure to either get rid of person stressing you out to find someone else as the usual advise offer by those around you however there's a major catastrophic awaiting you ahead.
Starting all over is has not been easily and willingness to do is not always there, not when you just got off a relationship you wished it never ended. However, try to see if there are ways possible to fix things up for the better and work on building the trust again between your partner. There is nothing that has gone wrong without a solution ahead of it. Two heads are better than one. Seek each other opinions and try to figure out way out in order to rediscover your true happiness again and be live happily together. There is no perfect one for you out there and if you are not ready to take a trial with somebody nobody is ready to take one with you either. Life is in measure, what you offer others is exact thing you get in return- remember the law of karma!
Good times, although lasting times but they come almost at ending point. Many that have gone through hard times wished they spend those hard times as good times. Good will come after talking things through with your partner on rising issues between you two. Some people are very good at blaming partners for whatsoever happening and not admitting faults. I used to be this way of not accepting or agreeing to my faults with people not just partner. I got out of this mentality when a good friend spoke to me extensively with cool minded ideas under conducive environment. My friend pointed out how easy it is when you can develop a listening ears to listen to your partners. Most people in relationships lack this quality. You have got to listen and not arguing. Allow your partner to air view point. No one is an island of relationship and for one to have healthy relationship listening ears is a principle requirement.
Your partner would appreciate you more if you would listen and contributes positively at when needed. Say less and listen much. Ignore the incident and think of the good times to work on present issue in order to rediscover right tune of your relationship again.
Good times never fails and there are final cures to any sour time in relationship. Don't avoid someone you truly love thinking that's better choice of getting over issues (him/her). NO! It worsen it and you get hurt deep inside of you. There's no true happiness like being with someone you truly care about and having feelings of always staying around that person. Good times does come with great excitement and eagerness to stick to what you so much believe in.
Well, if these questions are ranging all a round you more often then you definitely need some time off to reorganize your life and set your priorities straight. Life is full of obstacles and ability to stay firm and focus at the point of these obstacles is what keeps you going and finding lasting solutions to them all. There's no single human in this world without stress or obstacles. We all have things making us feel a bit worried so its inevitable for humans with stress.
Bad time are trials (test) times and if you are not strong enough you are going to loose hope virtually in everything and life will seem non interesting- not finding a single reason to live. Funny enough, bad times are in-between success and deadline. The situation around you prevent you from seeing or looking beyond what's happening and how possible you could turn things around for good. No matter how bad a situation or condition may be there is always an escaping route only if you could stop worrying and start thinking way forward out of your predicaments.
Successful people in our world today are all those who turned their bad times into something that led them to where they are today. There are no secrets to this if you may ask. Just find out what they did and you apply same principles then you will be reaping same results if not more.
Do you know when life totally turn with you to face endless wall where you have no one or place to turn to, no shoulders to lean on or even someone to listen to whatsoever happening with you. That's ugly time! Its a bit more worse than bad time and anyone at this point are seemly desperate and vulnerable to anything. A time in your relationship where you wanted out completely and never want to reflect on some good times and wish whole memories erased off your mind. At this stage, decision made are base on situation approach without proper or thorough considerations of your partner.
Seriously I know the true feeling because I've been there just like you but don't make haste in making a major decision that may leave you later with no options. Friends around you may completely not be supportive as many may be giving you pressure to either get rid of person stressing you out to find someone else as the usual advise offer by those around you however there's a major catastrophic awaiting you ahead.
Starting all over is has not been easily and willingness to do is not always there, not when you just got off a relationship you wished it never ended. However, try to see if there are ways possible to fix things up for the better and work on building the trust again between your partner. There is nothing that has gone wrong without a solution ahead of it. Two heads are better than one. Seek each other opinions and try to figure out way out in order to rediscover your true happiness again and be live happily together. There is no perfect one for you out there and if you are not ready to take a trial with somebody nobody is ready to take one with you either. Life is in measure, what you offer others is exact thing you get in return- remember the law of karma!
Good times, although lasting times but they come almost at ending point. Many that have gone through hard times wished they spend those hard times as good times. Good will come after talking things through with your partner on rising issues between you two. Some people are very good at blaming partners for whatsoever happening and not admitting faults. I used to be this way of not accepting or agreeing to my faults with people not just partner. I got out of this mentality when a good friend spoke to me extensively with cool minded ideas under conducive environment. My friend pointed out how easy it is when you can develop a listening ears to listen to your partners. Most people in relationships lack this quality. You have got to listen and not arguing. Allow your partner to air view point. No one is an island of relationship and for one to have healthy relationship listening ears is a principle requirement.
Your partner would appreciate you more if you would listen and contributes positively at when needed. Say less and listen much. Ignore the incident and think of the good times to work on present issue in order to rediscover right tune of your relationship again.
Good times never fails and there are final cures to any sour time in relationship. Don't avoid someone you truly love thinking that's better choice of getting over issues (him/her). NO! It worsen it and you get hurt deep inside of you. There's no true happiness like being with someone you truly care about and having feelings of always staying around that person. Good times does come with great excitement and eagerness to stick to what you so much believe in.
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